Here we are again, the beginning of another year, making resolutions to improve our well-being. We vow that this year will be different. We really will be successful at making this change this time.
Many of us have already taken the first step, perhaps joined the gym, Weight Watchers, or begun another diet. Taking a step towards our goal is great, however, unless we address the factors that precede our behavior, our success will once again be short-lived.
So, what are these factors? All behavior is preceded by an underlying belief (the Cause), the belief then directs our thoughts and/or feelings, which then directs our behavior, which of course, leads to a consequence (the Effect). After looking at this model, it is easy to see why trying to redirect the behavior without first addressing the Cause leads to eventual failure. It is not about willpower or lack thereof. We must begin by addressing the Cause if we choose to see a different Effect. Create a new belief and the behavior changes accordingly to match the new belief. It has been said that if our circumstances haven't changed, then we haven't changed our thinking.
Spend some time answering the following question: "What would I have to believe in order for this to be true?" If I am overeating, perhaps a core belief may be that "there isn't enough," or "I'm not enough," "I'm not satisfied," "there are starving children in Africa," or a myriad of other beliefs that were programmed in when we were young. Who knows? Most importantly, we can change our belief to a new one that supports and nurtures us, beginning today. Of course, this is often easier said than done. Enlist the help and confidence of a caring friend, family member, or professional coach to brainstorm old and new beliefs until you come up with ones that ring true for you. Be successful this time, believe it!